#1-Find someone who shares the same values you do.This includes moral values, economic values, interpersonal values . . . you name it. I'm sure this piece of advice has kept me from marrying the wrong guy. I spent a year and a half dating a guy only to realize (finally!) that we didn't really share the same values. I valued going to church on Sundays. He didn't. I valued spending time with other people. He valued playing video games. I valued Catholic education and said I hoped any kids we might have would go to Catholic schools. He said, "I'm not spending any of my hard-earned money on Catholic schools." He valued Hustler magazine. I do not.
Someone tell me again why I spent a year and a half with him????
The problem with having your mama instill such strong moral values in you is that it's hard to find a guy with similar moral values who isn't as dull as beans. Seriously, aren't there any "good guys" who can also make a girl laugh?
#2-Pray for your future husband.When I was in high school, my mom told me that she started praying for the man who would become her husband and my father long before they met. She started praying for him back when she was a teenager. I thought it was a nice idea and decided to try it.
Truth be told, I only prayed for him sporadically during my teen years. It wasn't until my late twenties that I really started praying for him. But even then, it was more of a praying that God would send him to me and not actually praying for God to take care of him.
In fact, I don't think I became really serious about my prayers for him until a little over a year ago. Around that time, I found this book:
I took it on retreat with me one weekend and found a lot of comfort in what the authors had to say. Plus, there's a nice list of 52 prayer suggestions at the back that I'm praying through again this winter.
One last thing to share: Shortly after I started re-praying the prayers at the end of the book, I heard the song "6'2" by Marie Miller for the first time. It's the perfect song for any woman praying for her future husband!
Did you get any good (or bad!) advice from your mom? Link up with Mama Kat this week!